Pursue–Withdraw Pattern: Why One Partner Shuts Down and the Other Chases

by: Magdalena PaccagnanPublished on: 17/01/2026

One of you wants to talk, the other needs it to stop. How the pursue-withdraw pattern feels from both sides, and what actually interrupts it.

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Pursue–Withdraw Pattern: Why One Partner Shuts Down and the Other Chases

Why Couples Keep Having the Same Fight

by: Magdalena PaccagnanPublished on: 21/12/2025

The topic changes but the argument does not. Four shapes a recurring fight usually takes, and how to work out which one is happening between you.

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Why Couples Keep Having the Same Fight